Resolving All Relationship Problems From Within

When you resolve the issue within, you do not have to resolve it on the world without. There are no problems outside because you do not create any within. There are no enemies outside because you do not create any within. The key to solving all relationship problems is to solve them within yourself. There is no other because there's only you. The appearance of the other is simply a reflection of yourself. In the mirror of relationships, we get to experience ourselves. Changing within causes a change without.

All problems with others are problems within yourself. Your relationship with others is your relationship with yourself. You create harmony or disharmony with others as far as you create harmony or disharmony with your thoughts and feelings. You are only affected by others faults to the extent that you lack the intrinsic qualities to handle those faults. The problems that we experience with others are opportunities for us to develop our own power in handling them. We resolve the problem outside from within.

You create your experiences according to your perceptions. Change your perception and you change your experience. A key to genius is holding multiple perceptions of a thing. Do not look at other people's faults apart from their corresponding virtue when seen from another perspective. Also do not look at another person's fault apart from what it is that's lacking within you which is causing you to see it as a fault. When you look to see how something can be positive instead of negative, you'd feel differently.

Most problems with others are caused by insecurity and lack of wholeness. These factors causes you to give your power away to others. You fear that others are causing you to lose something, or that they are preventing you from having something you want. Realize that you are divinely protected. When you do not fear, people would tend not to do things that would hurt you. Even if they take something from you, divinity will bring restoration in some way. If they withhold your desire, it will come another way.

You do not need approval or appreciation from others because you give it to yourself. That is when others have no power over you, but you have all power yourself. You are not able to be controlled by others to do things based on need of approval or appreciation. You're not restricted from doing things if you're not approved or appreciated. You are able do things freely out of unconditional love. Loving yourself completely gives you power to love others without resistance. Spiritual awareness is vital for relationship.

You know that it is you and not them. The less you would give your power to the external by blaming others. The more you'd bring back the power to yourself by thinking about how you are causing the experience or the issue. Remember that you are the cause of everything in your world. This attitude causes you to be responsible for all the issues in it and responsibility is power. You're able to decide what thoughts and actions to change in order to engage the situation differently for a different experience.

The more you accept yourself, the more you are able to accept others. The less you would need others to change. It does not mean you do not intend others to change, because it is a good thing for them to grow and change for the better. You just do not care as much. You are carefree and therefore you can be happy without others being able to take away your happiness. When you can accept others, that's when you're able to love them freely. When you do not resist what they are, they're free to change.

The less do you need to criticize and judge others. You may have judgments in your own mind, but the less do you voice them out. You are able to allow them to be what they are because you have found a way to be in harmony with the world and the people in it. You understand that others have the freedom to live their own lives and think their own way. You are free to choose who to relate with and for what purposes you wish to accomplish with them. You're more focused on how to best fulfill your agenda.

The less do you need to defend yourself. You will find that you free up a lot more energy for being. You do not have to waste your time arguing and fighting. You can allow others to have their own opinions and view of things. You pick your arguments selectively. You'd rather spend your time focusing on those who're more likely to agree with you and which will more likely get you the outcome you want. Even if many are against you, you would still simply do your work and let it have its effect than fighting back.

Be aware of your energy. Be aware when you are feeling resistance towards others unconsciously. You experience resistance and rejection from others because you are unconsciously resisting and rejecting them in some ways. Drop your resistance and you find that others become more accepting towards you. You'd also find yourself a lot more free in engaging others and getting what you want from them. Relationship is very much an energy thing and you can work from the core by perceiving the energy.

In the end, it is all about allowing fearless, unresisted and unconditional love to be felt. The problems that you experience with those that you love is because your love is not made perfect or unconditional in some way. There is still some fear, some condition or some resistance on your part. Relationship is for the purpose of developing our unconditional and perfect love for others. We experience friction until we learn to bear and forebear. It shapes our character to create more harmony in ourselves and world.

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